woops…that escaped early…it’s friday night…oh well… Jason Mraz from, Love Is a Four Letter Word Living In The Moment If this life is one act Why do we lay all these traps? We put them right in our path When we just wanna be free I will not waste my days Making up all kinds of […]
Words of encouragement for your inevitable bad day.
“There will be bad days. Be calm. Loosen your grip, opening each palm slowly now. Let go. Be confident. Know that now is only a moment, and that if today is as bad as it gets, understand that by tomorrow, today will have ended. Be gracious. Accept each extended hand offered, to pull you back from the somewhere you cannot escape. Be diligent. Scrape the gray sky clean. Realize every dark cloud is a smoke screen meant to blind us from the truth, and the truth is whether we see them or not – the sun and moon are still there and always there is light. Be forthright. Despite your instinct to say “it’s alright, I’m okay” – be honest. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
When our partner does something that doesn’t comply with our conditioning, we feel unhappy because we want our conditioning complied with. We think that our partner doesn’t love us or isn’t a good person for not complying with our conditioning. But the reason most people don’t comply with our conditioning is that they have conditioning that’s different from ours. When our loved ones don’t comply with our conditioning, we may feel unhappy, angry, sad, resentful, and even afraid. Did that person make us unhappy? Or did we make ourselves unhappy by assuming that person should comply with our conditioning? Who says someone should comply with our conditioning? Our conditioning says so. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
We don’t offer a quick fix. That is what many of us were trying to do when we first distracted ourselves from unpleasant mental states or experiences. We self medicated, gave ourselves misguided kindness and compassion, to help take care of difficult things happening in our lives. And why not ? You may ask. Well quick fixes, are like band aids that fall off minutes later. Quick fixes perpetuate the vicious cycle of addiction. Why? Because while we may be momentarily relieved from our suffering, guarantee the unpleasant mental states we have been avoiding, will emerge again. Guarantee the craving for a better experience, or more pleasant mental states will emerge again. And when they do we will be reaching for that same or similar quick fix. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
Psychiatrists will often refuse to cooperate in people’s plans to come off psych drugs….
When psychiatrists refuse to prescribe appropriately so that folks can taper safely off psych drugs they are acting criminally.
…most of the people on internet psych drug withdrawal boards are in this position. We only have each other for support and direction. … [click on title to read the rest]
If someone is acting defensive consider the fact that it’s because they are feeling fear…from there it’s easier to find compassion…(and that holds true for when we get defensive as well. We can stop and ask, what am I afraid of in this instance? and from there perhaps choose to respond differently) … [click on title to read the rest]
I’ve always thought that Acceptance and Commitment Therapy was an effective fusion of western psychotherapy and mindfulness practices and have been referring folks to the workbooks for many years. Steven Hayes is one of the founders of that system. I’d not heard him speak before. He’s clearly one of the good guys. … [click on title to read the rest]
A new theme on Beyond Meds has recently emerged as I learn to use sound, tones and music to further heal the iatrogenic brain/body/mind injury. I can feel all these things affect my autonomic nervous system in very profound ways. When we heal we are rewiring or retraining our brain…this is the essence of neuroplasticity. … [click on title to read the rest]