Be curious about both the bitter and the sweet

There’s a common misunderstanding among all the human beings who have ever been born on the earth that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get comfortable. You can see this even in insects and animals and birds. All of us are the same.

Get curious about your experience…

The below excerpt from Tricycle Magazine about dealing mindfully and skillfully with physical pain can be done with emotional pain too and in fact is closely related to what Jayme shares here in healing her own mental distress. One night when I was still new to meditation, I lay awake for hours in agony from… Continue Reading →

Get curious about your experience

This can be done with emotional pain too. One night when I was still new to meditation, I lay awake for hours in agony from a badly sprained ankle. Finally I decided to see what would happen if I meditated with the pain as my object. The result astounded me. I recalled a teacher’s suggestion:… Continue Reading →

Curiosity about ourselves and our inner lives

Even when life brings one lemons, I’ve found the most helpful attitude is to be curious about the experience. Below are various bits and pieces to help inspire the process of doing that in your life.

Curiosity about ourselves and our inner lives is really what personal growth is about. And anyone regardless of whether they’re religious or secular can grow in this manner. It’s often called spirituality, but one need not attach oneself to that word to utilize the practices. … [click on title to read the rest]

Trauma, subpersonalities, the lie and constant change (parts)

Healing, more than anything, becomes an exercise in learning to trust oneself. This is especially important when there are people about who want to force us to do things that are counterproductive to healing. Unfortunately the medical and psychological establishments perpetuates many such treatments. My village has been patch-worked together from all over the world. I’m profoundly grateful for the internet given I would not have healed otherwise.

Allow. We need only to allow.

The one, perhaps most foundational, thing I did was practice feeling what I was feeling. Since that was overwhelming and insane amounts of pain that meant 30 seconds at a time at first and slowly slowly practicing BEING WITH WHAT IS…what is was a ton of pain and agony…what is was a ton of fear keeping me from feeling the agony. The practice was to ALLOW. We need only to allow. This is it. This is reality. Allow it.

Radical uncertainty: a healing stance for all

By Ron Unger, LCSW — Unfortunately, the typical interaction between professionals and clients seen as psychotic in our current mental health system has characteristics which make a positive human relationship almost impossible. To start with, rather than starting from a place of equality, where two people negotiate to see each other and to define reality, the professional holds onto a position of assumed superiority and declares himself or herself as able to define both the other person and the overall nature of reality, without any need to reconcile that view with the viewpoint of the “psychotic” person. This makes sense within the standard paradigm, as once a person’s mental process is defined as “psychotic” it is understood to be determined by illness, and to be senseless, with nothing of any value to offer. Under such circumstances, true dialogue, in which the experience of the professional meets the full experience of the other, is impossible. … [click on title to read and view more]

Melt into your own life

I’ve been studying The Gene Keys for a couple of years. I find the work a delightful contemporary mythological window into reality that truly does penetrate into the cells of the body if one contemplates the process that unfolds. — “People don’t need help. They need love.” … [click on title for the rest of the post]

CBT: Part of the Solution, Part of the Problem, an Illusion, or All of the Above?

Cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT has been pretty heavily criticized by people within the “alternatives” community and in particular by a number of Mad in America (MIA) bloggers and commenters in the past few years. In a way that isn’t surprising, because many of us are looking for radical change, and CBT often appears to be part of the establishment, especially within the therapy world.–But while I’m all for criticizing what’s wrong with CBT, especially with bad CBT, I think there’s also a danger in getting so caught up in pointing out real or imagined flaws that we fail to notice where CBT can be part of the solution, helping us move toward more humanistic and effective methods. I would propose that we instead attempt a “balanced approach,” noticing both where CBT is likely to help and where it is not, and discovering what can be done to build on the strengths of CBT while avoiding problems with the misapplication or overstated marketing of it. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

I’m an ass, you’re an ass

A friend shared that Anthony DeMello once talked about writing a book called, “You’re an ass, I’m an ass.” So I looked it up and found an article from which I’ve excerpted the below, because, well, we’re all asses and Anthony DeMello speaks to this truth quite beautifully.

He also goes on to talk about how one can be with mood states and not get involved with them. Something I’ve been learning and practicing on this healing journey. One can be witness to what goes on in the body/mind and simply look on interested while being just fine even with what would have been at one time rather destabilizing. There is a fine teaching in the below paragraph. … [click on title to read and view more]

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