Confront abuse by believing. Yes, start by believing

Yes, thank you…go watch this short video (there is no embedding option and it’s worth watching) Video: Confront abuse by believing.

From the video page:

Pam Rubin, a women’s trauma counsellor and lawyer, explains why we need to start confronting abuse by believing its victims. “We don’t immediately jump to ‘What were you saying, doing, wearing? Are You suffering from mental illness?’” … [click on title to read and view more]

Childhood abuse is “unpalatable” and so the epidemic of abuse goes unchallenged

Childhood abuse is “unpalatable” and so the epidemic of abuse goes unchallenged.

When we start listening to people’s stories of pain rather than numbing them out and effectively silencing them with neurotoxic drugs we will start healing them. Until then people will remain broken. One of the most basic needs for a wounded human being to heal is to be seen. Recognized. Validated. Yes.
Child Abuse is much more common than we think. The statistics are staggering, with 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys being molested by the age of 18. “End It Now” gives us an inside look at this silent killer, and the dramatic effect it has on a person’s life as they mature into adulthood. The video seeks to raise awareness and train audiences how to respond if they witness abuse, or if they’re experiencing it themselves.

Beware the Vampyre! For he is an archetypal representation of abuse

As most literary figures and themes, vampires are a symbol; I’d go so far as to say that they are an archetype (IE, an ancient and nearly universal symbol recognized by many human cultures across time). The vampire represents the victim of abuse who, having lost his soul, is transformed into an “undead” creature victimizing and therefore condemning other humans to the same fate.

The anger and rage collection: what we don’t engage we cannot transform

Anger is an emotion many people have so much trouble with that what happens is that is they end up denying that it’s how they feel and also then, in turn, become unable to be present to it in others.

This is not an effective way to heal if one has good reason to be angry. In fact it becomes impossible. Most people have good reason to be angry. We live in a culture of abuse and trauma and we’ve all been hurt. We also see a world where forces that feel much bigger than us are hurting many 1000s and millions of people all over the world. We also watch as our world and planet is being destroyed. So many good reasons to be angry, yes. And so many good reasons to be totally and completely aware of what is going on around us. We need to get it together! The world is a mess and it’s a mess because of us. Human beings.

So, what do we do about it? … [click on title to read and view more]

The violence of birth in modern medicine: often our first trauma

I’m sharing a wonderful short film with Laing narrating below. The dehumanization that happens during the birth of a baby to both mother and child has been compared to some of the traumas that happen in psychiatry too. The fact is a lot of medicine can be traumatic and coercive, both.

To avoid birthing trauma for both mothers and our newborns we need to understand this and makes changes. I’ve often said we live in a culture of abuse. I’m not always explicit about what that means. Here is one glaring and mostly avoidable example of how we are out of touch with the nature of our being and impose abuse on ourselves and our children. Even the process of being brought into the world is often unnecessarily traumatic when it should be simply joyous.

Birth with R.D. Laing (1978) … [click on title to read the rest]

State of mental health care #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth

It’s important to consider what the right kind of care for those with mental health issues is because the fact is much of what is considered state of art now makes many people worse. Blanket calls for more available care isn’t enough if we don’t also think about what better care looks like.

Pushing for making mental health treatment more accessible is not helpful if the available treatment is just plain bad as it is for the most part now. … [click on title to read and view more]

The anger and rage collection: what we don’t engage we cannot transform

Anger is an emotion many people have so much trouble with that what happens is that is they end up denying that it’s how they feel and also then, in turn, become unable to be present to it in others.

This is not an effective way to heal if one has good reason to be angry. In fact it becomes impossible. Most people have good reason to be angry. …

The Raising of America: let’s give our kids what they need

Science has demonstrated that a child’s experiences during the earliest years are vital to building the foundation for life-long individual success — in school and in life.

Now economists are studying the costs and benefits of high quality early care and preschool. And they’re worried. Not because we’re spending too much but because we’re spending too little where it matters most. …Preventing trauma and abuse in kids and supporting them in meaningful ways as they grow up should be a critical priority … [click on title for the rest of the post]