In fact these are the same WOUNDED folks involved in different aspects of the same dynamic….
Collapsing the frames allows one to step back and have a larger perspective. It’s also okay when we need to use these frames for utilitarian purposes. It’s also good to remember they are simply frames. …
sometimes I feel as powerful as I feel helpless other times. I felt somewhat helpless when I first mused about the ridiculousness of academics and scientists thinking they’re onto something brand new when we’ve known some of this stuff for many years. Today I feel powerful BECAUSE I’ve known this stuff for so many years and I continue to heal. As I continue to heal what I know becomes embodied. …
I talk about self-protection as legitimate because it absolutely is. What I’m trying to underscore is that when we self-protect we also understand the situation of the other — that nobody is toxic but there are only forms of woundedness that interplay with our particular karmic inheritance. We are sometimes the one that harms (even if only unintentionally) and other times we are the ones that are harmed but it’s all an interplay of woundedness and when we start to understand this we can move through more gently and with love and forgiveness even for those who have perhaps harmed us. …
This is another amazing twitter spiel by a wonderful therapist and twitter friend. I’ve shared another one of these from Martha Crawford before: The psychotherapeutic community needs to tolerate diversity, dissonance, divergence. It’s worth checking out too if you didn’t see it when I posted it. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
There are as many paths as there are human beings. The only one who can appropriately determine that path is the individual. We need each other, no doubt, though the only way people can find themselves is to make their own choices and their own mistakes. Respecting our differences is vitally important. Sometimes that means letting people go or having to leave. So be it. Sometimes I think that lack of empathy is just a lack of imagination.… [click on title to read more]
Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.
Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being… … [click on title to read the rest]
Self-compassion, empathy towards oneself and the willingness to be vulnerable paired with ongoing awareness are the qualities we need to nurture so that we might heal our mind and body and after that the mind and bodies of others and then the planet too. Bringing mindfulness to our own lives with these powerful states of consciousness can be part of the beginning of change. Paying attention to a process is changing the process!
Making people out to be evil when they are simply unconscious obfuscates the problem. When we are clear on how unclear others can be we begin to be able to find compassion and empathy and thus a way to communicate too. We learn this by traveling through and recognizing our own lack of clarity.
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she’s learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy. These insights touch all of us regardless of stage of life or the […]