Suicide: Learn to listen to and support yourself and others

People who are suicidal are all too often met with terror and control. Most people who feel suicidal need to talk about it. Approaching people with love and openness means NOT being terrified of that persons dark places. And not reacting in a knee-jerk and controlling manner. That has never allowed anyone to feel safe to open up about the painful vulnerability they are most assuredly experiencing when feeling suicidal. …

Just Breathe: listen to the children

Watch it, please. It’s very lovely. The inspiration for “Just Breathe” first came about a little over a year ago when I overheard my then 5-year-old son talking with his friend about how emotions affect different regions of the brain, and how to calm down by taking deep breaths — all things they were beginning to learn in Kindergarten at their new school … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Listening for the Person within “Madness”

By Ron Unger As we struggle to invent a humane approach to the extreme states that get called “psychosis” or “madness” or “schizophrenia,” it may be helpful to investigate some of the better approaches developed in the past. While these approaches are not without their flaws, they are often surprisingly insightful.  (It can also of […]

Stories rarely told: Listening, suppression and narrative burden

Active listening is not always silent. But it is attuned to the realities that our roles and needs in dialogue are not equal. Active listening acknowledges that one participant’s experience or imput is secondary at least for the time being, but sometimes forever. This is especially true when listening to a member of a group whose narratives have marginalized, suppressed, disenfranchised. If you see your own story mirrored accurately everywhere – and someone is telling you a story that differs from the dominant narrative… In order to actively listen, you must remain conscious of this discrepancy. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Listen to your life

Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, not less than in the excitement and gladness; touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace. … [click on title to read and view more]

The inner voice: dare to listen

We must turn away from the cacaphony of the outerworld to hear the inner voice. When we can dare to live its promptings, then we achieve personhood. We may become strangers to those who thought they knew us, but at least we are no longer strangers to ourselves. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Finding MDs who are non-coercive and also interested in listening and partnering

Note: I’m using the term MD or doctor in this post, but this goes for all medical professionals. One of the people I consult with, for example has a Functional Medicine degree from a Chinese Medicine school. He’s not actually an MD. I’m just talking about qualified medical professionals here. And regardless of training or degree, I’ve found it hard to find folks who have access to lab testing etc who want to really listen to me. Most people have boxes they’ll try to fit their patients into. I’ve found this to be often true among alternative medical practitioners as well. The boxes may be different, but they’re still boxes. … [click on title for the rest of the post]