Reactivity, empathy, perpetrator and victims

This is another amazing twitter spiel by a wonderful therapist and twitter friend. I’ve shared another one of these from Martha Crawford before: The psychotherapeutic community needs to tolerate diversity, dissonance, divergence. It’s worth checking out too if you didn’t see it when I posted it. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Twitter thoughts on perpetrator and victim

A little twitter prose of three tweets: If you accept your own nature being both light and shadow it is in turn easier to forgive those who have harmed you…the enemy is within. Everyone has been perpetrator and victim at one time or another. No one escapes this reality. We’ve all been victims and we’ve […]

Victim / perpetrator — some ideas that challenge popular thinking

This is a response to an email in an email group in which someone was saying we should not be “victims.” Part of working through being a victim though, and rising above it is recognizing the damage that has been done. Ignoring this is simply invalidating and damaging. Karen Henninger speaks to this beautifully in […]

Their trauma is not an excuse to be a shitty person to you. Really?

Actually it kind of is. Certain kinds of trauma hack the nervous system in such a way that drama ensues even in light of awareness. Then it’s just your job to steer clear with great compassion and love in your heart. People who treat others badly because of their own trauma do need to become aware and avoid situations where they act like assholes until they better understand and are able to not behave in that way. We can help them by making clear boundaries while minimizing our judgments. …

~fragments from beyond the edge~

Pseudosanitysplaining:
People In positions of authority who imagine they are not insane telling you that you are insane.

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it’s always an adventure into the ordinary…what is, is.

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Waking up and healing the body are destructive processes that then require rebuilding of both body and psyche.

All things: deep healing for trauma, body/mind and soul

As I continue to heal the wounding that brought me to my knees at this time last year, this poem arose to meet the anniversary of my near death. It is all a journey to heal the trauma held within the body that heals the mind and soul too. We are one holistic being and everything matters:

Smoke and Flames: Silence In A World On Fire – By Will Hall

A corrupt world is built brick by brick by individual acts of shame and silence. Can we break the silence that protects misconduct even while it means being exposed ourselves? Psychiatry and the mental health system are failing, but they are also just sets of human relationships, relationships we are also part of. …

the mental health professionals who perpetrate against us

I think a lot about why I can’t work therapeutically with people in the mental illness system. I have found that the same traumatic dynamic comes up with some frequency outside that system too with “healers” of all stripes really…alternative doctors, energy workers, therapists of various sorts, you name it…if they are in the healing profession they’ve hurt me and people like me. Some of us are like magnets to people’s ugliness. This is a sort of karmic phenomena for some of us and to change it we must become aware of how it works under the surface because it’s not a conscious process for anyone involved. Clinicians are the worst because they’re in a position of power and they deny that this is happening. That of course adds to the injurious nature of the dynamic. …

The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story

By Charles Eisenstein first published on his site and offered freely via a creative commons copyright. Thank you, Charles. – Normal is coming unhinged. For the last eight years it has been possible for most people (at least in the relatively privileged classes) to believe that society is sound, that the system, though creaky, basically works, and that the progressive deterioration of everything from ecology to economy is a temporary deviation from the evolutionary imperative of progress.