Living after loss: the Adventure of Grief

I’d like to note that the message in this video can be generalized to all kinds of loss and trauma too. Not just the loss of a loved one.

We must feel our emotions!! And embrace all of life! Psychiatry is a whole field of medicine dedicated to the suppression of emotions and the darkness of our psyches. The healing involved in coming out of decades of this suppression is phenomenally difficult and perhaps sometimes impossible. This is why I do the work I do, that people today learn to embrace their lives rather than drug it away. If you block the negative emotions you in turn block all the positive emotions. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Turning grief into a profitable disease

“Pleasure puts you to sleep and pain wakes you up,” an Indian sage once said, yet in the United States we live in a culture that prizes painlessness far more than wakefulness. Indeed, we are increasingly being encouraged to pathologize pain at moments when we would otherwise be called to wrestle with life’s meaning.

The latest edition of the DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (due for publication in May) which is the bible of psychiatry, regards grief as a disease.

Following the death of a loved one, depression occurring within a few weeks can be treated as an illness in need of a pharmaceutical cure. The pain of loss can and supposedly should be chemically dissolved.

All too predictably, the support that was once provided by other people is coming instead to be provided by pills.

Instead of recognizing grief as an appropriate response to death and the profoundly difficult transitions that come in its wake, a human experience is being turned into a neurotransmitter imbalance and in the process a huge business opportunity is being opened up for companies like GlaxoSmithKline.

Grief to become just another form of depression? another disorder for the DSM5 (and alternative ways of thinking about that pain)

As we watch the hullabaloo around the creation of the next DSM, one of the moves towards increasing pathology in normal people is to label grief a depression, hence opening the floodgates that more people will be treated with antidepressants.

The fact is this has already been happening for a long time. Many people are introduced to antidepressants after the loss of a loved one or after a divorce etc. Still, to further legitimize the mass drugging of normal pain and heartbreak that all human beings will face at one time of another as we live our lives is a bad direction to move in. The DSM5 wants to do that.

Grief: It’s complicated

One of the many normal human experiences for which it is currently the fashion to pathologize is grief. I was surprised to find a very reasonable article on Psychology Today’s website, which in general tows the party line and generally makes me groan whenever I read their work. The study they report on today shows… Continue Reading →


Oddly enough I’m doing okay with the withdrawals. Today was the one month anniversary of my brothers death. My only symptom today was grief–even my PMS seems to be under control. I can’t say I experienced anything that could be clearly identified with withdrawal–oh–except insomnia last night. I’m tired as all get out. The pain… Continue Reading →

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