Making people out to be evil when they are simply unconscious obfuscates the problem. When we are clear on how unclear others can be we begin to be able to find compassion and empathy and thus a way to communicate too. We learn this by traveling through and recognizing our own lack of clarity.
Nonviolent Communication NVC often functions as a conflict resolution process. It focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (defined as a deep and compassionate awareness of one’s own inner experience), empathy (defined as listening to another with deep compassion), and honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way that is likely to inspire compassion in others).
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she’s learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy. These insights touch all of us regardless of stage of life or the […]
What exactly is compassion? Compassion is the recognition of another’s suffering and a desire to alleviate that suffering. Often brushed off as a hippy dippy religious term irrelevant in modern society, rigorous empirical data supports the view of all major world religions: compassion is good….
Compassion is a kind of fire … it disturbs, it surprises, it ignites, it burns, it sears, and it warms. Compassion incinerates denial; it especially warms and melts cold hearts, cold structures, frozen minds, and self-satisfied lifestyles. Those who are touched by compassion have their lives turned upside down. That is not necessarily a bad […]
I think the idea that self-compassion trumps self-esteem is an excellent point that needs to be considered. Here she goes into depth about this idea.