Narcissism (the plague of our times?)

did you know that daffodils are narcissus flowers? Narcissism is a coping strategy for when one has been wounded in profound ways. Anyone who makes it in this world has to find some sort of narcissism in order to heal. What gets called malignant narcissism is only one manifestation. Survival demands narcissism. ...

The shifting grounds of relationship

I can’t not be me now, all of me. It’s all out there, no mask, no pretence, no condition shoulds or ways of being other than this. There is only so much space and time available to put myself into a straight jacket of someone else’s making. And so that requires of them the letting go of expectations and projections. It requires of them to relate with me in the now, in the present moment, in the rawness of life, in the truth of life. It requires of them to let go of any ideas of me and be with the reality of me. Anything else and it falls apart, anything else and it’s untruth burns brightly. Anything else and it gets shown for what it is... the conditioning of shoulds. I ask for authentic relating but I give it too, not as a virtue signal, a choice or a practice, but because life gives no other option, even when honestly I'd love an option to turn it off, turn it down!

Happiness, activism and the gut

Happiness can coexist with despair. It really can. We need to stop having such narrow view of what happiness is. Being human is a rough ride ~ when we embrace the despair the happiness is a byproduct... The capitalistic marketing of happiness works like this: make everyone who feels anything other than happy believe that... Continue Reading →

Sharing our truth vs. TMI (too much information)

I do it for myself but equally and sometimes more importantly I share as a role model for vulnerable people who might not otherwise trust themselves to do what they need to do in a world where not only have our needs never been met but we've also been harmed repeatedly when we've gone the route that the establishment tells us to go. We are on our own and we can still heal. Sometimes, really, I share only for this reason and not so much for me at all. I know that people don't always like it and that I make people uncomfortable sometimes and that is my service to others who really need to see that we can do things in spite of those who do not and cannot understand us. ...

Trauma is inter-generational. Racism is a trauma that has been with us for many generations. #BlackLivesMatter

If you're dealing with the trauma in your life and you're denying racism you're not really dealing with trauma. Trauma is inter-generational among other things. What white people did to black people in enslaving, murdering and raping them is still in the bodies of every ancestor. That means the trauma of what we did to an entire population in this country is in the body if you're black and it's in the body if we're descended from the white people who raped, murdered and enslaved the black folk who are still being harmed. As white witnesses of white supremacist public policies it's in every white person who has privilege. Yes, it's in my body too. Own this shit and allow our beautiful black brothers and sisters to heal. Acknowledge that it's still happening and get started. #BlackLivesMatter

Gluten, dairy and all the rest: Adding food back after elimination

I was on elimination diets for a long time and needed to be in order to quiet down the chaos in my body. I now know more than when I started and hope that the general method of learning to listen is helpful to others since I know the details will be different for everyone. Recently I went through a stint of eating lots of gluten and cheese as I add many different foods I avoided for many years back into my diet. I jokingly call it "retoxification." ...

herbalism/dietary tip: learning to listen to the body

Learning about how to listen to the body takes time. Small things we can start paying attention to help. *** It's best when we can taste our medicine which is one fundamentally critical difference from pharma. Herbs and food have taste that prepare the body for what is coming. And as we pay attention over... Continue Reading →

Waking After a Lifetime: Ingrid’s Voice

This bodymind named Ingrid has so much to say…and what seeks expression is not just for the sake of my own healing, but to serve as a beacon for anyone on a similar path, who needs to know they are not alone. Mine is a path of emerging from profound trauma, adversity, and lack, and of living in the world as highly sensitive, gifted, neurodiverse, and spiritually awakening. We are the people who so often find ourselves in the offices of professional helpers…and I will write for them, too, as it is imperative that those who would presume to walk with us, understand what actually helps…and be willing to challenge that which does not…even though this will take them straight into the heart of their own pain....

Defunding the police and mental health “care” …

Black people have it worse than white people do in the system...this is not a deflection from #BlackLivesMatter. Most mental health professionals are in denial and go along with the violence. We must be aware of these embedded patriarchal systems if we hope to protect the most vulnerable in our society. ...

Radical insights on the physical body

In a world where everything matters, there is no such thing as (just) "psychological". It's undersood in yoga, for example, that our "issues are in our tissues." Unfortunately westerners have totally forgotten this. Ayurveda/yoga is not much better when it comes to daily practice in the world, but the information is there if one needs to find it. I most certainly did...

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