Hoʻoponopono: Collective Forgiveness

An ancient Hawaiian tradition: "In these communities no one was considered an isolated individual. Every single person was a member of the interdependent community and bloodline. Every single person in some way or another represented their clan/family/lineage/village. - So If one single person behaved criminally then the whole family, clan and village felt they were responsible for that behaviour. A criminal action belonged to and was the responsibility of the whole community. - If there was a wrongdoing therefore the whole family and village would come out to take responsibility for it, to redress it and to heal it." …

Why your worst deeds don’t define you

Almost everyone in prison is redeemable says Shaka Shengor. I agree. Our prison system is profoundly sickening and it's a reflection of our culture at large. Traumatic and violent culture, people hurting and suffering without love and care from the time they're little children. We see here that this man is just like everyone of us...in part, a product of where he found himself and becoming conscious allowed him to heal. We are all capable of such transformation. … [click on title to read and view more]

Finding the good in those we love

So the question is: Are you willing to put up with your partner’s bad qualities? If you’re not, leave. But the bad qualities are the test of the relationship; your commitment is to their bad qualities. You don’t have to commit to their good stuff. You just do that, that’s pleasant. If somebody wants to cook me dinner, how much of a commitment does it take to show up? Right? Or having my laundry done. I can deal with that. I can show up for that any time you want. ... [click on title for the rest of the post]

The heart of forgiveness

This is a very sophisticated treatment that looks at many of the questions people have when contemplating the forgiveness of those who've harmed us, sometimes very badly. … [click on title to read the rest]

thoughts on forgiving

By Rick Belden -- When it is possible at all, forgiving is an ongoing, sacred process. Expectations of forgiveness are unreasonable when harm is ongoing I think one of the worst double binds that abuse and trauma survivors face is the expectation that they should forgive someone, often a family member, who continues to treat them badly. Often the nature of the maltreatment has changed from childhood to adulthood. For example, someone who was physically abused as a child by a parent may instead be subjected to what often seem to be regarded as more civilized and acceptable forms of psychologically abusive behavior as an adult. But the original underlying pattern of disrespectful, abusive behavior has never stopped. It is still ongoing.

Finding the Good in People We Love

So the question is: Are you willing to put up with your partner’s bad qualities? If you’re not, leave. But the bad qualities are the test of the relationship; your commitment is to their bad qualities. You don’t have to commit to their good stuff. You just do that, that’s pleasant. If somebody wants to cook me dinner, how much of a commitment does it take to show up? Right? Or having my laundry done. I can deal with that. I can show up for that any time you want.

The Heart of Forgiveness

This is a very sophisticated treatment that looks at many of the questions people have when contemplating the forgiveness of those who’ve harmed us, sometimes very badly.

My prayerful and meditative journey of late–beginning lessons of the soul

Every morning when I wake up now I start it first with a period of contemplative prayer, followed by a period of mindfulness meditation. I only began to pray recently, in the last few months when my physical suffering at times became unbearable. Emotionally too I was struggling with questions about why in the hell... Continue Reading →

prayer of radical forgiveness

By Rachel Snyder Follow the link folks.

Forgiving Part II

Quotes on Forgiveness: The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.-- Mahatma Gandhi When we harbor negative emotions toward others or toward ourselves, or when we intentionally create pain for others, we poison our own physical and spiritual systems. By far the strongest poison to the human spirit is the inability... Continue Reading →

Forgiveness

Some may find this corny, but I don't care.

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