Tag: relationships

Empaths, empathy, healing and relationships

I talk about self-protection as legitimate because it absolutely is. What I'm trying to underscore is that when we self-protect we also understand the situation of the other -- that nobody is toxic but there are only forms of woundedness that interplay with our particular karmic inheritance. We are sometimes the one that harms (even if only unintentionally) and other times we are the ones that are harmed but it's all an interplay of woundedness and when we start to understand this we can move through more gently and with love and forgiveness even for those who have perhaps harmed us. ...

Relationships heal. Spirit Reins – where traumatized kids meet horses.

There are as many ways to heal as there are human beings. Spirit Reins works with children and families who have experienced trauma to make sure they have the tools and resources they need to reach their full potential and contribute to their community. - This is a beautiful and touching short film. Included is also more links to information on trauma and how it pertains to that which gets labeled mental illness.

How our conditioning affects our relationships

When our partner does something that doesn't comply with our conditioning, we feel unhappy because we want our conditioning complied with. We think that our partner doesn't love us or isn't a good person for not complying with our conditioning. But the reason most people don't comply with our conditioning is that they have conditioning that's different from ours. When our loved ones don't comply with our conditioning, we may feel unhappy, angry, sad, resentful, and even afraid. Did that person make us unhappy? Or did we make ourselves unhappy by assuming that person should comply with our conditioning? Who says someone should comply with our conditioning? Our conditioning says so. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

The importance of relationships

Explaining that thoughts, moods, and feelings are essentially contagious experiences, Hull engagingly cites research from psychology and social science to show the power of becoming a mindfully contagious individual. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Finding the good in those we love

So the question is: Are you willing to put up with your partner’s bad qualities? If you’re not, leave. But the bad qualities are the test of the relationship; your commitment is to their bad qualities. You don’t have to commit to their good stuff. You just do that, that’s pleasant. If somebody wants to cook me dinner, how much of a commitment does it take to show up? Right? Or having my laundry done. I can deal with that. I can show up for that any time you want. ... [click on title for the rest of the post]

The primacy of relationship

Now, there is a different way of working, which is to inquire into ourselves and to know exactly what is going on within the field of the mind, not in order to gain some reward, but for the very simple reason that there can obviously be no end to misery in the world as long... Continue Reading →

Finding the Good in People We Love

So the question is: Are you willing to put up with your partner’s bad qualities? If you’re not, leave. But the bad qualities are the test of the relationship; your commitment is to their bad qualities. You don’t have to commit to their good stuff. You just do that, that’s pleasant. If somebody wants to cook me dinner, how much of a commitment does it take to show up? Right? Or having my laundry done. I can deal with that. I can show up for that any time you want.

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