The one, perhaps most foundational, thing I did was practice feeling what I was feeling. Since that was overwhelming and incomprehensible amounts of pain that meant 30 seconds at a time at first and slowly slowly practicing BEING WITH WHAT IS...what is was a ton of pain and agony...what is was a ton of fear keeping me from feeling the agony. The practice was to ALLOW. We need only to allow. This is it. This is reality. Allow it.