Here's the thing...in as much as we cannot abide the pain in others we are unawake to that pain within us...heal ourselves we heal the whole ... people who studiously avoid the "negative" are missing out on their own healing...we don't need to go look for it, but avoidance is denial. ... those who need love most...are the ones we studiously avoid ...the "difficult" people who've been hurt in ways we can't abide...sometimes others find me to be that person...most readers of this blog perhaps have felt rejected in this way too at one time or another.