CODEPENDENT? The term codependency as it is commonly used is problematic. We are a species that relies on and survives because of interdependence on one another. In a relationship with two people stripped away from the extended family codependency is absolutely normal and healthy. The issue is awareness. Are we aware of how we impact one another? Are we in some form of self-inquiry or contemplation that helps us become aware of patterns and dynamics from our traumatic childhoods?