integrating the ugly. -- If you want to beat yourself up when you "slip into old habits" go for it, but I suggest you learn to be kind to yourself instead. When you find that you can do that ~~ go for deeply mindful instead of beating yourself up...see what the parts of you that wanted that food, drug, behavior or whatever really want. Sink into the emotional aspects of eating, drinking or "behaving" in less than ideal ways. It's possible to heal young injured parts that way. ...