On therapy

Many therapists have not emancipated themselves from their training and think they are there to fix you. They are potentially dangerous. Trust yourself. If your therapist doesn’t encourage you to trust yourself, do not trust them.

I have certainly found meaningful support only from those who treat me as an equal. … [click on title to read more]

Did I get enough love?

By Elaine Mansfield — “As soon as you begin to ask the question, Who loves me?
You are completely screwed, Because the next question is How Much?” Tony Hoagland — And after that, Does he love me still? and Does he love me even though he’s dead? And then, When do I stop feeling married to a person who is no longer here? and Why do I feel lonely in a room full of people because he’s not smiling from across the room? … [click on title for the rest of the post]

The wounds we carry

By Elaine Mansfield — “They’re all wounded,” I thought as I watched people in the grocery store or on the street, “but I can’t see their scars and they can’t see mine.” … I wished them happiness because I knew their life hurt as mine did, even if we were the lucky ones who had food to eat, a place to sleep, and medical treatment. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Welcome the fear, the anxiety and thus transform it

Anxiety is basically a clinical term for fear which everyone at one time or another experiences with or without a diagnosis of some sort of anxiety “disorder.” Psychiatry pathologizes much of the normal human experience and in opposing fashion fear and/or anxiety is often referred to in Buddhism and other alternative philosophies as normal. A normal form of human suffering. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

LINKS to blogs and resources

These have been collected since the beginning of Everything Matters: Beyond Meds. It’s by no means an exhaustive list, nor is it updated as often as it should be. Healing and Recovery Blogs ♦ Innercompass – withdrawal information ♦ Let’s talk withdrawal ♦ Living life gently ♦ be whole now ♦ Corinna West ♦ Holistic […]

Spirituality related posts

Spirituality related posts Click here for every post on the blog that is tagged “spirituality.” It’s a complete list. And here is a list specific to mindfulness and meditation. The below is a list I started manually, which I realized was an impossible task as there is so much on the blog at this point. […]

Peace in the chaos

The peace that we’re looking for is not peace that crumbles as soon as there is difficulty or chaos. Whether we’re seeking inner peace or global peace or a combination of the two, the way to experience it is to build on the foundation of unconditional openness to all that arises. Peace isn’t an experience free of challenges, free of rough and smooth, it’s an experience that’s expansive enough to include all that arises without feeling threatened. … [click on title to read the rest]

Stop running away

If there are whole parts of yourself that you are always running from, that you even feel justified in running from, then you’re going to run from anything that brings you into contact with your feelings of insecurity. And have you noticed how often these parts of ourselves get touched? The closer you get to a situation or a person, the more these feelings arise. Often when you’re in a relationship it starts off great, but when it gets intimate and begins to bring out your neurosis, you just want to get out of there. So I’m here to tell you that the path to peace is right there, when you want to get away. … [click on title for the rest of the post]

Has the rug been pulled out? (again)

I am in a bit of a flare in my healing process. My nervous system got challenged beyond what it was ready for when I attempted Bikram yoga. No, not all yoga is alike, and Bikram, I discovered is the military boot camp style of yogas, oh my. That is another story, but take it as […]

What do you believe?

People find it quite easy to have beliefs and to hold on to them and to let their whole world be a product of their belief system. They also find it quite easy to attack those who disagree. The harder, more courageous thing, which the hero and the heroine, the warrior, and the mystic do, is continually to look one’s beliefs straight in the face, honestly and clearly, and then step beyond them. That requires a lot of heart and kindness. It requires being able to touch and know completely, to the core, your own experience, without harshness, without making any judgment. … [click on title to read and view more]