I managed to get out and dance at a 5 Rhythms event. That’s ecstatic dance inspired by Gabriel Roth. That perhaps has been my biggest victory. I danced for a full hour and stayed at the event for 2 hours. Another VICTORY. First time out in the evening. First time sustaining high intensity exercise for a whole hour too.
We looked very much like the folks in the above video. Without the white clothes. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
Today I’m sharing a lovely little video a friend shared with me showing a simple metta (lovingkindness) meditation and then directions for the same featuring Jack Kornfield’s work. The video is new to the blog, the directions from Jack are something I’ve shared before. I’m sharing it again as lovingkindess meditation can be very powerful and healing both. The video is really beautiful as well. The directions by Jack Kornfield go deeper into ways of expanding the practice. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
woops…that escaped early…it’s friday night…oh well… Jason Mraz from, Love Is a Four Letter Word Living In The Moment If this life is one act Why do we lay all these traps? We put them right in our path When we just wanna be free I will not waste my days Making up all kinds of […]
Words of encouragement for your inevitable bad day.
“There will be bad days. Be calm. Loosen your grip, opening each palm slowly now. Let go. Be confident. Know that now is only a moment, and that if today is as bad as it gets, understand that by tomorrow, today will have ended. Be gracious. Accept each extended hand offered, to pull you back from the somewhere you cannot escape. Be diligent. Scrape the gray sky clean. Realize every dark cloud is a smoke screen meant to blind us from the truth, and the truth is whether we see them or not – the sun and moon are still there and always there is light. Be forthright. Despite your instinct to say “it’s alright, I’m okay” – be honest. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
When our partner does something that doesn’t comply with our conditioning, we feel unhappy because we want our conditioning complied with. We think that our partner doesn’t love us or isn’t a good person for not complying with our conditioning. But the reason most people don’t comply with our conditioning is that they have conditioning that’s different from ours. When our loved ones don’t comply with our conditioning, we may feel unhappy, angry, sad, resentful, and even afraid. Did that person make us unhappy? Or did we make ourselves unhappy by assuming that person should comply with our conditioning? Who says someone should comply with our conditioning? Our conditioning says so. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
We don’t offer a quick fix. That is what many of us were trying to do when we first distracted ourselves from unpleasant mental states or experiences. We self medicated, gave ourselves misguided kindness and compassion, to help take care of difficult things happening in our lives. And why not ? You may ask. Well quick fixes, are like band aids that fall off minutes later. Quick fixes perpetuate the vicious cycle of addiction. Why? Because while we may be momentarily relieved from our suffering, guarantee the unpleasant mental states we have been avoiding, will emerge again. Guarantee the craving for a better experience, or more pleasant mental states will emerge again. And when they do we will be reaching for that same or similar quick fix. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
The Thing Is… to love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything you’ve held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the silt of it. When grief sits with you, its tropical heat thickening the air, heavy as water more fit for gills […]
Psychiatrists will often refuse to cooperate in people’s plans to come off psych drugs….
When psychiatrists refuse to prescribe appropriately so that folks can taper safely off psych drugs they are acting criminally.
…most of the people on internet psych drug withdrawal boards are in this position. We only have each other for support and direction. … [click on title to read the rest]
If someone is acting defensive consider the fact that it’s because they are feeling fear…from there it’s easier to find compassion…(and that holds true for when we get defensive as well. We can stop and ask, what am I afraid of in this instance? and from there perhaps choose to respond differently) … [click on title to read the rest]
I’ve always thought that Acceptance and Commitment Therapy was an effective fusion of western psychotherapy and mindfulness practices and have been referring folks to the workbooks for many years. Steven Hayes is one of the founders of that system. I’d not heard him speak before. He’s clearly one of the good guys. … [click on title to read the rest]
A new theme on Beyond Meds has recently emerged as I learn to use sound, tones and music to further heal the iatrogenic brain/body/mind injury. I can feel all these things affect my autonomic nervous system in very profound ways. When we heal we are rewiring or retraining our brain…this is the essence of neuroplasticity. … [click on title to read the rest]
As a poster child for psychiatric drug treatment, Solomon has been showered with honors. He received the Society of Biological Psychiatry’s Humanitarian Award in 2008 and is a lecturer in Psychiatry at Weill-Cornell Medical College. He is on the boards of many mental health organizations.
As of March 2013, Solomon was still taking 5 psychiatric drugs a day.
But a closer at Andrew Solomon’s history suggests that his is a not a triumph of psychiatric drug treatment, but a tragedy. He has been taking a basket of psychiatric drugs every day for 20 years not for depression, but for misdiagnosed iatrogenic symptoms caused by the drugs themselves. … [click on title to read the rest]
I wanted to say a few words about meditation for those who are maybe just starting. I’m a long-time meditator and then in the last 7 years or so it’s been something I needed to stay alive. Quite literally. I have a deep appreciation for the contemplative life. … [click on title to read the rest]
People use drugs, legal and illegal, because their lives are intolerably painful or dull. They hate their work and find no rest in their leisure. They are estranged from their families and their neighbors … [click on title to read the rest]
I got up this morning wanting to go to a yoga class which I’ve recently been able to do on occasion. Still, the condition of my autonomic nervous system has different ideas sometimes. Even yoga can be too much and a full yoga class in the community quite often is.
I decided to find something appropriate on youtube instead. I often do my own routines and don’t absolutely need a class or a youtube video either, but I like finding new routines and new teachers. It really helps me stretch and grow. It also often helps to slow me down when I might otherwise rush through postures on my own. … [click on title to read the rest]
One of my favorite therapist tweeters did a string of tweets I just had to share yesterday.
And that’s right “everybody” does not need therapy, in direct contradiction to that party phrase.
There are as many healing paths are their are individuals. And every person ideally finds a combination of things that work for them. Because we’re profoundly varied as well as holistic beings and everything matters. … [click on title to read the rest]
The biggest problem in our society now for those who get diagnosed with any sort of “psychosis,” is that they are most often met by professionals that do not even believe that healing can occur, let alone deep transformative growth. Deep transformative growth, could be the norm, if those claiming to be healers actually knew what was involved in the individuation journey. Meeting the dark underbelly of the psyche as those of us who have been labeled psychotic at one time or another is a calling and an act of heroism. One that is rarely encouraged in society. … [click on title to read the rest]
by Kristine Kaoverii Weber
And I’ve been around the love-drenched yoga counterculture for a long time. So I feel okay about making this gross generalization: love is a murky and sometimes abused concept in our yoga world. And there’s a tendency to equate spirituality with cheeriness, long lingering hugs, positivity and (my personal fave) non-judgment. … [click on title to read the rest]
On Dr. David Healy’s website from yesterday there is an article about the very problematic Somatic Symptom Disorder category in the DSM 5. I’ve written about this before because it’s of particular interest to many folks who’ve suffered iatrogenic damage from psychiatric drugs. Psychiatric drug withdrawal syndromes are sometimes devastating physically crippling illnesses that can last months and years. We have all faced being told our issues are psychiatric. We have routinely suffered from little or no care from our health care providers. We have had to take care of each other completely out of the system. Remaining in the care of doctors has often been dangerous. Somatic Symptom Disorder category further institutionalizes this dangerous trend. … [click on title to read the rest]
What we can do that takes best care of us is to trust Life completely. Our part is to stay right here, with the breath, paying close attention and moving in the direction Life guides us. In that way, we can learn all there is where we are and be ready to be somewhere else when that learning is complete. … [click on title to read the rest]
Baylissa Frederick is the author of Recovery and Renewal: Your Essential Guide to Overcoming Dependency and Withdrawal from Sleeping Pills, Other ‘Benzo’ Tranquillisers and Antidepressants
She is a benzo survivor and is one of the many lovely people who has helped me greatly over the years. I wrote about the lovely cycle of peers helping one another recently. … [click on title to read the rest]
Results: Eight of the 20 adverse effects studied were reported by over half the participants;
most frequently Sexual Difficulties (62%) and Feeling Emotionally Numb (60%).
Percentages for other effects included: Feeling Not Like Myself – 52%, Reduction In
Positive Feelings – 42%, Caring Less About Others – 39%, Suicidality – 39% and Withdrawal Effects – 55%. Total Adverse Effect scores were related to younger age, lower education and income, and type of antidepressant, but not to level of depression prior to taking antidepressants. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
Tara Brach’s work has been an inspiring influence for many years. This explores the evolutionary conditioning of fear and judgment that contracts us away from love and acceptance, and the quality of mindful presence—in relating inwardly and in communicating with others—that awakens and frees our hearts. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
This video explores life, death, and suicide from the perspective of suicide attempt survivor and ex-”Bipolar” patient, Laura Delano. … [click on title for the rest of the post]
Qigong has been complimenting my yoga practice lately. I am very much a novice but I find the additional flowing movement something I need at times. … [click on title for the rest of the post]