The roots of violence (and mental illness too)

In keeping with yesterday’s post on spanking here is more about how what we do to our children (as well as what happened to us as children) shapes future generations in a negative fashion unless we become aware and heal and change.

Alice Miller was one of the first who identified these problems. Her books on the subject are classics for good reason.

I was spanked, and I turned out OK

“I was spanked, and I turned out OK. What does that even mean?”

Stop the cycles of trauma and abuse…it’s up to each and every one of us. We’ve all been raised in what amounts to an abusive culture. Much trauma is accepted as normal and okay. Awareness of this can help us change and stop passing it down to our children.

Shaming children is emotional abuse

Shaming children is abusive and it’s one of the many hidden sources of trauma since people sometimes need to learn what shaming behavior is. This is especially true if parents were subjected to shaming themselves by their own parents and have never recognized it as abuse.

The Facts About Spanking

The shocking science about the long-term effects of corporal punishment, essential viewing for every parent. and The idea of painless, nonthreatening coercion is an illusion. Fear is the inseparable companion of coercion, and its inescapable consequence. If you think it your duty to make children do what you want, whether they will or not, then it follows inexorably that you must make them afraid of what will happen to them if they don’t do what you want.