Most “healing”professionals of all stripes and varieties wear professionalism like a suit of armor. This is a subtle form of lying. They hide behind the armor of their profession hoping to seem flawless and authoritative. Removing themselves from their fellow humans…
This armoring is done by necessity, really. The professional is not fit to withstand the others pain in integrity with deep honesty and courage…The only way they can take care of themselves is to hide behind a wall of falsity. “I am better than you. You cannot touch me.”
And yet this is all false, inauthentic and toxic to any sensitive human being on the receiving end of such bullshit.
Mental health professionals are taught and trained to hide behind such walls. It’s considered ethical practice and good boundaries.
Now, to be clear, good boundaries are important…but they can be achieved in a radical different way when one is whole and authentic
I speak to all of this because I once hid behind such walls as a social worker and I have now observed it in dozens of people I’ve tried to work with…
Today, unless I am treated as a colleague and peer I cannot work with people…and generally, therefore, do not, though there are a few such people in my life now…who are, essentially, friends or colleagues whom I pay for their special skills.
I learned to expect to be treated with respect and if it’s not happening I don’t stick around. Period.
We come to respect ourselves and in that process we find those that will respect us as well. It’s a rough road. It can be done.
More on topic:
- Bridging the Patient-Professional Divide
- the mental health professionals who perpetrate against us
- Letters to my shrink (now a collection including emails to health professionals of all stripes) (the ones that didn’t cut it)
- To see a professional or not
- Professionals/experts and clients/patients: as human beings we are all peers
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