the Mental Health Professional…vs creating our own therapeutic village…

When that random mental health professional you’re trying to explain your work to deletes your civil and respectful, but challenging, comments. **once again proving your point.

Mental health professionals like to tell us we are not having our experience if the experience makes them feel too uncomfortable.  That is exactly the reason why it is often unsafe for those of us with this experience to pursue care with professionals in general. Our process of discernment must get much deeper and more sensitive for this very reason. It’s almost amusing except that it’s dangerous for so many. We cannot go back into a system that harmed us when it continues to tell us that it’s not true.  See: Professional denial is a form of retraumatization

For the record I work with several professionals, however, at this point, they’re all my friends and we are able to break through convention entirely. To get so-called services from those you love is family-based energetics that pull us back into the fold rather than deny us.

Healing comes in many forms. Once one gets into the groove of their own path whether professional or not has very little to do with where we get support.

The only reason some of the folks I get support from are professionals is because that’s the world I come from– it’s absolutely unnecessary that they be professional that is somewhat incidental in this instance. Ecstatic dance serves as trauma therapy and it’s phenomenal. I’ve been writing about dance for years but I don’t think anyone understands its power if they’ve not experienced it. We are all peers on that dance floor and it’s profound. I do plan to write something that will attempt to get explicit about how it works.

Creating one’s own village is the only way at this point for some of us. Ultimately recreating the village in general is a method of healing for the entire collective.

See: The divide between client/patient/consumer and professionals (a collection)



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7 thoughts on “the Mental Health Professional…vs creating our own therapeutic village…

  1. Monica I don’t know where else to make this comment to you so I’ll just do it here. Before you returned from Boston and the subsequent second brain injury and were in your friend’s house your photo of you with your legs elevated from edema. I thought the other things you had been through such as the feeling of a dagger in your shoulder, the hyper hypo thyroid, so much, I thought to myself, “I’m so sorry that happened to her. I am glad it didn’t happen to me.” Well, guess what? It’s all happening to me too. I was, like you, on massive doses of neuroleptics and other drugs for more than 10 years and I have been left chronically ill. I dance as well. I sing at the top of my lungs, I let myself feel. Emotions, sights, sounds, memories, all of them. All carefully preserved and now able to be expressed and appreciated. Life is such a precious gift. I don’t know if my body will fully recover since I am now in my late sixties, but I’m so overjoyed to have all of these things again. I wish more people could grasp these injuries we are experiencing and healing from but most peoples eyes just kind of glaze over if I try to go into any detail. The best is that my creative powers are being restored and I can share them with people who had ignored and left me isolated for so many years and it makes them happy that Iam back. I can bring joy to people again. Anyway, I have rambled but glad to be able to talk with another human who has been through it. And as my husband reminded me of your words. ” It gets better.” 🙂

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  2. Telling the professional, my transpersonal psychotherapist, that the onset of my diagnosis was a Kundalini Awakening lends me an understanding ear.

    However, a psychiatrist or GP would just think I am delusional.

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    1. yes. thank you and wonderful!

      it’s also important to know that there are a lot of transpersonally educated therapists who still don’t know how to handle many of the spaces those who get labeled by psychiatry go…we need to be careful of whom we connect with if we are one of those people.


  3. Monica,
    After all these years, I invite you to Like facebook’s “Living Dance” . . . we’re in the same flow. The header photo was taken while I was in trance, in a 90 minute piece called Sahara Date by Ralph LaCharity,

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