Whatever is our process is our process, we can’t alter that. The only thing that can be changed is how we direct attention towards the process — letting that attention become a habit so that we pay attention to every moment now. How that comes to be is completely out of our control and will look different for everyone. We are not in control. Yup, everybody is completely out of control, but no one actually wants to notice that. Once we notice that – nothing matters – just as much as everything does. Kick back. Watch the show. Meet the moment with integrity. The immediate met with integrity takes care of all one can do.
Instead of assuming people are stupid when they don’t know something we think they should perhaps we should instead assume the context of the others life is different than our own and therefore different things have taken priority. (I don’t remember all sorts of stuff from my own daily life to household names of famous people of all sorts…politicians etc…I also don’t clearly remember major events – political and catastrophic or joyous etc, since my brain injury. I’m not an idiot and it’s teaching me to not assume that about anyone ever)… human beings are cruel across the board assuming the worst about those they do not know or understand. (given we rarely know or understand ourselves, it’s all the harder to know others if we dismiss them) I am now practicing meeting people as they are…with ignorances and bigotries too. We’ve all got them. I want to meet people in my community…rather than listen to the choir…mirroring back my own biases. (that’s what social media generally does).
Just found someone who edited the above paragraph on their site when quoting me. It’s kinda good without all the extra stuff. (I generally only write a first draft…editing is a good skill I don’t practice often enough😝)So here, the shortened version:
Instead of assuming people are stupid when they don’t know something we think they should perhaps we should instead assume the context of the others life is different than our own and therefore different things have taken priority…I am now practicing meeting people as they are…with ignorances and bigotries too. We’ve all got them. I want to meet people in my community…rather than listen to the choir…mirroring back my own biases. – Monica Cassani
See: Community, by Paul Woodward
You have given yourself respect. You have allowed yourself to be who you are. You have not allowed the process to be stopped. This is good.
and from Vernon Howard:
“You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need. “
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hi, monica – i quote you often. 🙂 i only removed a little of the middle bit! so glad you like the post; as is so often the case, your timely offering was so in synch with what i was trying to say. thank you for all that you do and share!
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well, that is amazing because your thoughts flow well even though its often hard to put these experiences into the confines of word-meanings. i can’t imagine it will be hard to find an editor – i think a few of your readers (at minimum) would surely *want* to assist in this way. i think you should mention it in your next post i.e. what is involved, ect.
Oh I was really pretty much joking. I mean sometimes I really do need editing but it wouldn’t work for how I like to operate with this site. If I ever get to writing a book then I will definitely need an editor.
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