I link to this today just because her piece in Salon is so exactly my experience. Granted I gained weight because of psychotropics but otherwise every word she is saying I could be saying.
An excerpt to get you over there:
I may not be as big as some of my friends and family members, and I may not be the size most people mentally associate with the word obese, but I am bloody well fat, and I have been most of the time since college. The homeless man might have been crazy, but he wasn’t wrong. The friends who kept insisting “You’re not fat!” were the ones out of touch with the truth.
But then the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends “You’re not fat” because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky (read the complete article here)
And as Kate warns don’t read the comments at Salon unless you want to see just how ugly fat haters really are. It’s pretty disgusting and disturbing. I made the mistake of reading about 3 or 4 of them before I’d had enough fat and woman hating shit.
I don’t know if I will stay fat or not since I’ve been dropping weight like mad since I got off the neuroleptics with no effort whatsoever. I feeling mighty skinny at just a tad over 200 lbs right now. Truly!! But I’m still fat and may always be. Politically I’m all about what Kate is here. Fat hatred is ugly. And most of us are party to it and we direct it at others and to ourselves. For quite an education spend some time at Kate’s blog.
And furthermore, most of the “science” that fuels fat hatred is just plain wrong. Don’t take my word for it—look into it yourselves.
A good place to start is Rethinking Thin by Gina Kolata which I’ve mentioned here before. She debunks a lot of the bullshit around weight and the obsession of dieting.
You can listen to Gina on NPR here to get a sense of what she is about.
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