Blaming has no positive effect at all

Artwork by Thich Nhat Hanh

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well.  It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce.

Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. — Thich Nhat Hahn from Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life

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