Hanging out with the good and the BAD in meditation

From wildmind Buddhist meditation website:

The American Buddhist nun Pema Chodron suggests what this might be like in her book, The Wisdom of No Escape.

There’s a common misunderstanding among all the human beings who have ever been born on the earth that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get comfortable. You can see this even in insects and animals and birds. All of us are the same.

A much more interesting, kind, adventurous, and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop our curiosity, not caring whether the object of our inquisitiveness is bitter or sweet. To lead a life that goes beyond pettiness and prejudice and always wanting to make sure that everything turns out on our own terms, to lead a more passionate, full, and delightful life than that, we must realize that we can endure a lot of pain and pleasure for the sake of finding out who we are and what this world is, how we tick and how our world ticks, how the whole thing just is. If we’re committed to comfort at any cost, as soon as we come up against the least edge of pain, we’re going to run; we’ll never know what’s beyond that particular barrier or fearful thing.”1

What she’s alluding to here is a kind of contentment and confidence that comes from a deeper place than simple ego-driven pursuit of pleasure or avoidance of discomfort. Rather than being at the mercy of our feelings, we learn to stay and hold our ground from a different place of knowing. We’re able to stand firm no matter what’s going on, whatever storms blow us around. We make our choices from a fuller awareness of who we are rather than what feels good. And because we’re acting with a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us, we can choose to flow in harmony with the world as it is, rather than fighting our way through it.

For those of us who sometimes suffer from great distress this is also, as I understand it, what healed my friend Jayme and what I practice now.

2 thoughts on “Hanging out with the good and the BAD in meditation

  1. I’m not sure that’s a metaphor that holds up for a fire in our soul…sometimes we cannot move away…of course in the physical realm we always can.

    but yes, it’s a good thing to think about.


  2. My question for my Buddhist teachers, has always been, if my hand is in the fire (literally on a hot stove) should I move it away?



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