The trouble with mindfulness

A repeated theme on Beyond Meds is about how healing and wholeness requires one to embrace the full emotional spectrum us human beings inherit. Joy, happiness, and grief and despair…all equally.

Below is an excerpt from The Naked Monk’s blog, Stephen Schettini writes:

‘Spiritual’ people often think that negative states of mind are a problem, that hate must be turned into love, frustration into joy. This is valiant but misguided. Are you searching for tranquility, or for a tranquillizer? Sharp, effective mindfulness begins with acceptance of your emotions, not judgement of them. Only then is change possible.

Reality is sometimes so simple that we just miss it. Anger, frustration and regret are appropriate responses to many situations. Indulging in them doesn’t help, but taking a step back and seeing them in context does. Resist the urge to escape and you see what you’re really dealing with.

Those who want to feel good now miss this subtle difference. Their desire to change their feelings is the same old urge to flee, just another subconscious craving for things to be other than they are. Actually, it’s worse: believing they’re on a special path to freedom, they’re even more blinkered than the rest of us. (read the rest of the article)

I love this theme as many of you already know. We must embrace the whole spectrum of being human–our entire emotional inheritance. There is no coming to true maturity otherwise.

And to be explicit, most of us who’ve ever had the misfortune of being pathologized and labeled by psychiatry likely have some heavy stuff we need to work through. In most cases we’ve been traumatized sometime in our lives. In that case meditation is hard work at times and there is no way around it. It can be scary and traumatizing in and of itself and we need to be aware of that fact and have the proper supports in place. In the end for most people who can stick with a contemplative lifestyle it is indeed HEALING though and  well worth it.

Because it’s so important to be aware of the true nature of a deep meditative practice I’ve brought together a collection of links with some comments on the varied nature of meditation here: Meditation, not all bliss and roses (it can always be found in the navigation menu under HEALING ARTS)

There is also a collection with commentary on embracing our whole emotional spectrums: The foundation of healing mental ills and of becoming a mature human adult

About Monica Cassani

Author/Editor Beyond Meds: Everything Matters